And finally… These posts were just great, generally. They’ll be of interest to most MMORPG players whether you’re a WoW player, a SWTOR player, an EVE player or maybe even an enthusiast of one of the mythical Other Games.
- Syp at Bio Break would like to see PR companies finally retire jokes about making sandwiches during boss fights – “Does En Masse realize that no modern game since about 2002 has you hit auto-attack and then do nothing?”
- Chris at Level Capped muses on how geek/MMORPG culture is giving rise to a new renaissance in board games – “. Online gaming and social networking have blown the doors off the isolated geek stereotype and have brought gamers and geeks together over great distances – or even across town, where 20 years ago one geek wouldn’t even know of the existence of another unless they happened to be at the exact same place, at the exact same time, for the exact same reason. “
- Ophelie the Bossy Pallie has been thinking about abuse on the Internet (and in MMOs – I’m looking at you, LFR), and thinks it may be less about the anonymity of the abuser, and more about the anonymity of the audience – “Interestingly, the meanest people I encountered on Facebook (though that might just have to do with the type of pages I was looking at) were middle aged women. I could click on their profiles, see where they work, look at pictures of their kids and check their friends lists. Not so anonymous. However, they have no clue who’s reading their messages and being creepy. “
- And Matty at Sugar and Blood muses on unwanted sexual attention and stalking in MMOs, and how all parties should deal with it – “There is a distinct difference between unrequited love and being a stalker. I do not believe this is a generational thing, so I am not going to wag my finger and say tut-tut, you digital natives! Look how bad you are!”
Any great links from the last week we’ve missed? Point ’em out below!
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Sometimes, people on the internet can really suck.
Most of us probably know or know of someone who’s had more than the usual levels of hassle in an online game. Every day, hundreds of people are threatened, stalked, or otherwise seriously harassed online. It can be a horrible, isolating experience, and if you’re the one at the sharp end, it’s very easy to feel helpless, or even feel that it’s somehow your fault.
In a post which I really feel can’t be widely linked enough, Apple Cider Mage tackles this problem from personal experience today. She offers a step-by-step guide to surviving, coping, and working with your game’s GMs or equivalent to make the harassment stop –
“Harassment/abuse is not your fault. I know it is easy to blame yourself, that maybe if you had done things differently, you wouldn’t be in this situation. But it is not your fault someone responded to whatever happened in an inappropriate, gross way. Ever. No matter what you said, or did, or thought you did.
A lot of times people will harass you for no other reason than being there at the wrong time, or the wrong sort of person to them. There’s nothing you can do to make yourself less or more of a victim, and don’t listen to people who say that you can. Being a victim is because someone wants to hurt you and that’s wrong. It is always their fault for harassing you.
It isn’t just words, it isn’t just “lol internet” and if it affects you, then that’s all that matters. And you can always DO something about it, but don’t feel guilty if you’re scared or terrified. They intend to scare you. That’s what they want. It is very brave to report them, and that’s awesome. “
Apple Cider recently wrote a very brave post detailing her own experience with harassment, which I also recommend reading, whether you’ve personally suffered from harassment or not. It’s an eye-opening look at just what happens online, and how difficult it can be to cope with it.
Her guide is absolutely fantastic. She’s a skilled writer, and clearly knows the subject backward, and it shows – the guide is clear, consise, and specific as to actions to take and expectations to have. I’ve seen a couple of people go through situations with serious harassment, and having support and a roadmap can be enormously helpful – I’d very much like to see this guide widely linked so that as many people as possible can easily find it in time of need.
(My one additional comment would be that it’s always a good idea to talk to the police if the harassment escalates out of game. Whilst, as Apple Cider says, they can sometimes be unhelpful, they can also sometimes be very helpful indeed. I know of at least one situation where harassment stopped extremely quickly after the police became involved.)
Bravo to Apple Cider for writing this. If you’re a blogger, you’re on Twitter, or you’re on Facebook or Google Plus, I’d strongly encourage you to share her guide with your followers. You never know who it might help.
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